Of course, some criticism is intended to be, and is positive and well meaning. It does not intend to ‘find fault’. Examples are in the study, evaluation and interpretation of the creative and cultural arts.
However, criticism of others can be a wholly negative, even toxic dialogue that harms others.
In NLP, we believe criticism should ““Respect the individual, focus the criticism on the behaviour – on what people actually do or actually say.”
In psychology, it is recognised that people who are preoccupied with criticism may be suffering from one of the following;
- Low self-esteem (they may be the victim, who is ultra sensitive to anything they may interpret as criticism)
- Narcissistic personality disorder (inwardly they feel humiliated, degraded and empty)
- Paranoid personality disorder (they cannot accept criticism, but they can dish-it-out in bucket full’s)
- Avoidant personality disorder (particularly sensitive to rejection)
- Dependant personality disorder (will often ask for forgiveness and self correct)
- Hypercriticism (anal retentive, nit picking, nagging)
- Hypocriticism (hypocrites, who accuse others of their own vice)
Synonyms of the word criticism include; blame, blast, burn, castigate, censure, chastise, chide, condemn, correct, denounce, reprimand, bash, blister, carp, clobber, disparage, evaluate, judge, hit, knock, lambaste, pan, rap, reprehend, rip, roast, scorch, skin, slam, slog, slap, trash, come down upon, cut down, cut up, denounce, dress down, fault, bad press, nag, nit-pick, scathe and take down.
This MP3 should be used in conjunction with Welcome No Stress and Anxiety and Welcome Life Beyond Depression.
“The worst critics are holding a mirror up to their own face.” – Peter Zapfella.
If you had a bucket of mud (representing negative emotions and behaviors), but you wanted a bucket of clean fresh water (representing positive emotions and behaviors), you could put the bucket of mud under a tap and run fresh clean water (representing subliminal affirmations) into the bucket. But it would take a long time, and you would still have a bucket of muddy water. That is an analogy of how most subliminal affirmation downloads currently available on the Internet work, or perhaps do not work. Peter Zapfella uses his one-on-one therapies to ‘throw out’ or delete the mud (representing negative emotions and behaviors) and then you can choose to use the ‘Welcome’ Subliminal Affirmations to quickly and efficiently refill the bucket with fresh clean water (representing positive emotions and behaviors). No mud!
Everyone of us is unique. We have all had different life experiences and we react to them differently too. Most emotional and behavioural challenges can respond well to one-on-one psychotherapy tailored to the individual, using Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), hypnotherapy and perhaps cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT).
That is why Peter Zapfella suggests you start with one-on-one therapy using Skype and then use the ‘Welcome’ subliminal affirmations to ‘lock-in’ the unconscious shifts long-term. Of course you can ‘flip-it’ and try one of the 266 ‘Welcome’ MP3’s first, and see if they are effective for you without therapy. If so, that’s great. If not you can use skypetherapy.pro
Now you can listen to these subliminals when ready to sleep and let these gentle and encouraging words guide your unconscious mind into the realms of dreams. If you listen to this MP3 while sleeping, on ‘repeat’ or ‘loop’ your unconscious mind will hear this message around 450 times every night. Alternatively, you can listen in the background during the day at work or leisure, as no hypnotic trance is required.
These subliminal messages are simply ‘obscured’ from the conscious mind within masking music or environmental sounds to prevent conscious analytical thinking. The more these messages are repeated, the more they are uncritically accepted by the unconscious, which maintains emotions, beliefs and habits of behaviour. A simple message, repeated enough, will become a new unconscious belief. A message repeated following therapy with Peter Zapfella can achieve miraculous results.
Subliminal Affirmation Text:
“Everyone has a different past experience and therefore a different way of dealing with life’s challenges. Nationality, culture, religion, race, age, gender, sexuality, physical and psychical disabilities. and so many other things make us all different. You cannot know what it is like to be another person in their skin. Understanding and appreciating our differences creates our empathy and acceptance. So just focus on all the good in other people, letting go of criticism, which is immature anyway. You are now more clear in the mind, more relaxed in the body. You accept everything and everybody because you are more confident, and you have greater self-control. The way that you feel is becoming better and better, because the burden has been lifted for ever and ever. Now that you welcome letting go of criticism of others.”
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