Unsatisfactory relationships from the past actually give us the experience and strength to recognise them for what they are, and move on to better things.
I have worked with various individuals to assist them to almost magically attract into their lives their perfect relationship, based upon a list of personal qualities, even occupation they prepared.
Now, using your past experiences as a guide make two lists. One, of all the things you have learnt to reject from your relationships, the things that gave you the most emotional pain. Then make a second list of all the things you valued most, that gave you the most pleasure.
Our own unconscious mind is hard wired, for survival purposes, to move away from pain toward pleasure. So I want you to close your eyes and remember as if ‘now’ each one of those painful memories until you feel it. The stronger the negative feelings the better. Then reject it, push it away in the mind and shout aloud at it – ‘No. No. No’ Identify it, then absolutely reject it physically and emotionally. Proceed through each of these painful memories and do the same, then repeat again tomorrow and the next day, until you cannot feel the ‘pain’ anymore. Cross each one of those things you rejected off the list, and once they are all done ritualistically rip it up into little pieces and flush it down the toilet.
At the same time listen to the corresponding ‘Welcome’ subliminal affirmation MP3.
Then and only then, do the complete opposite with your list of most pleasurable memories. Again, with eyes closed take yourself into each memory, one by one, and feel it intensively in mind and body. Accept it completely into your neurology and say ‘Yes. Yes. Yes’ Identify it and integrate it as part of neurology.
Next, make a list of all the personal qualities of your dream man. Get really clear, and realistic too. Then listen to this MP3 daily, or while you sleep.
“Conceive it, then Perceive it as if real, then your unconscious mind will Believe it, so it can Achieve it”
– Peter Zapfella.
If you had a bucket of mud (representing negative emotions and behaviors), but you wanted a bucket of clean fresh water (representing positive emotions and behaviors), you could put the bucket of mud under a tap and run fresh clean water (representing subliminal affirmations) into the bucket. But it would take a long time, and you would still have a bucket of muddy water. That is an analogy of how most subliminal affirmation downloads currently available on the Internet work, or perhaps do not work. Peter Zapfella uses his one-on-one therapies to ‘throw out’ or delete the mud (representing negative emotions and behaviors) and then you can choose to use the ‘Welcome’ Subliminal Affirmations to quickly and efficiently refill the bucket with fresh clean water (representing positive emotions and behaviors). No mud … just your dream relationship!
Everyone of us is unique. We have all had different life experiences and we react to them differently too. Most emotional and behavioural challenges can respond well to one-on-one psychotherapy tailored to the individual, using Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), hypnotherapy and perhaps cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). That is why Peter Zapfella suggests you start with one-on-one therapy using Skype and then use the ‘Welcome’ subliminal affirmations to ‘lock-in’ the unconscious shifts long-term. Of course you can ‘flip-it’ and try one of the 266 ‘Welcome’ MP3’s first, and see if they are effective for you without therapy. If so, that’s great. If not you can use skypetherapy.pro
Now you can listen to these subliminals when ready to sleep and let these gentle and encouraging words guide your unconscious mind into the realms of dreams. If you listen to this MP3 while sleeping, on ‘repeat’ or ‘loop’ your unconscious mind will hear this message around 450 times every night. Alternatively you can listen in the background during the day at work or leisure, as no hypnotic trance is required.
These subliminal messages are simply ‘obscured’ from the conscious mind within masking music or environmental sounds to prevent conscious analytical thinking. The more these messages are repeated, the more they are uncritically accepted by the unconscious, which maintains emotions, beliefs and habits of behaviour. A simple message, repeated enough, will become a new unconscious belief, which your unconscious can manifest into your dream relationship. A message repeated following therapy with Peter Zapfella can achieve miraculous results.
Subliminal Affirmation Text:
“You use all of your senses to visualise, hear, touch, and smell your dream relationship. When you see men walking down the street, in the park, at the beach or at the mall, you say to yourself ‘that’s my new boy friend’. You see him in your imagination. You see his hair. His skin. His eyes. His chest. His body. You can hear his voice and smell his personal scent. Most importantly, you know his personality, his masculinity. Conceive it, perceive it, believe it and achieve it. You are now more clear in your mind and more relaxed in the body. You accept everything and everybody because now you are more confident. You have greater self-control and the way you feel is becoming better and better because the burden has been lifted for ever and ever now that you welcome your new boy friend into your life.”
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