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For some people, compulsive sex can become a dangerous activity which just like drug or alcohol dependence has the potential to negatively impact their physical and mental health, personal relationships, work, study, quality of life, and safety.
Sex addiction can often involve sexual contact with several people, either individually or in groups. I used to regularly perform my XXX rated Comedy Hypnosis Shows at an Adult Swingers Club. Members would meet every week (sometimes more) to engage in both social and group sex activities. I always left the premises before things became overheated, although I was often asked to stay late. (As a regular hypnotic performer I thought it better to remain mysterious and disappear.) While they were all very nice people, the truth is they were all sex addicts.
Other people are addicted to sex within the privacy of their own bedrooms through extreme use of cybersex and pornography, chat rooms, or sexting with strangers. If a man starts to view pornography for hours a day, perhaps watching or involved in cyber activities that might be taboo within his relationship, he might find himself bored and losing interest in his partner, His quest for sexual excitement could make work and family seem dull by comparison, not to mention sex with his partner.
He could perhaps progress to pursuing dangerous or even illegal fulfilment for his addiction as cyber sex fails to hit the right spot anymore?
“I remember one gentleman who told me he would make up excuses to get his wife out of the house so he could watch pornography and masturbate. He felt guilty after satisfying his urges, but could not control them, or discuss his compulsion with her,” said Peter Zapfella.
If you cannot control your urges, if you do it knowing it hurts you or your loved ones and you still do it – you may have a compulsion. It is called hypersexuality or nymрhоmania
Signs of compulsive sexual behavior include:
- Repeated and intense sexual fantasies, urges, and behaviors that take up a lot of time and feel beyond control.
- Feeling driven with frequent urges to do certain sexual things, feeling a release of the tension afterward, but also feeling guilt or deep regret.
- Several failed attempts to at least reduce or control those sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors.
- Compulsive sexual behavior is an escape from other life problems, such as loneliness, depression, stress and anxiety.
- Continuing to engage in sexual behaviors in spite of them causing serious problems. These could include the possibility of getting or giving someone else a sexually transmitted infection, the loss of important relationships, trouble at work, financial issues, or legal problems.
- Difficulty making and maintaining healthy and stable relationships.
Ideally, sex should be psychologically AND physically fulfilling for both you and your partner. Ideally, you should be able to discuss your interests, kinks, and desires openly with your partner.
Without going into any details, I have had various discussions with individual clients and couples who have said they have been able to discuss their interests and found common ground where either or both have been able satisfy their desires without lies or deceit. This usually results in a bonding experience between them that deepens their relationship and trust.
If your sexual desire feels ‘out-of-control’ and ‘unfulfilling’ then you may need to seek help. If the compulsion is so strong you are driven to take un-necessary risks with strangers and/or unsafe sexual practices it could be a disorder.
Some married men visit brothels so they can engage in sexual activities they think their wife may not approve, and maybe they are right? That is their call. However, on some level they are cheating their partner and driving a wedge into their relationship.
Perhaps they need to think about what they get from those ‘extracurricular activities’? What is the worst thing that could happen if they chose the right moment to talk to their partner about it?
I had a young man come to me with a sexual problem. He was in love and engaged to be married. At least once a week, sometimes more, he would go to an Asian Massage Parlor. It always included a ‘happy ending’ for him.
He could not control his thoughts and urges for a massage and the ‘happy ending’. He tried to not go, and once he was there, he tried to resist the ‘ending’, but he could not. Then he felt the guilt and betrayal.
If he were still single it would not matter, but now he was in a relationship. His partner could not satisfy him in the same way as the Asian masseuse could. He was obviously in love with his fiancée, but there was a problem on the sexual side of their relationship. What to do about it?
When I was performing my Comedy Hypnosis Shows in Sydney, Australia I was contacted by a Dominatrix Mistress who offered to meet me and buy me a drink. Intrigued, I accepted her offer.
She explained to me that she had fallen in love with one of her customers and wanted to marry him. However, he was already engaged to marry someone else. Someone who apparently did not share their same sexual interests.
She told me she was also concerned she was unable to satisfy her love interest sexually because while she was penetrating him with strap-on didoes he had commented that he would prefer being penetrated by ‘the real thing’. She asked me if I could do two things for her, for which she would pay me any price.
Remember, as a Dominatrix Mistress she may have unresolved issues around control over men and humiliating them, including inflicting pain. She may not have the ability to maintain a normal caring and loving relationship with a man. Some are lesbians wanting to punish men, perhaps for past sexual assaults that twisted their perceptions of all men? (I have had lesbian clients who work as strippers in men’s clubs. They like to tease men with a ‘you can look, but not touch’ punishment to those men who may hope to play around behind their wives and girlfriends backs?)
First, she wanted me to hypnotize him to fall under her love spell, so he would dump his fiancée in her favor. Second, I was to hypnotize a gym fit muscular man, whom she would recruit, to join them in regular threesomes. In other words, I would be her proxy, under her command to control her love interest and perhaps both men.
I am sure she could find a suitable muscled man to do the job herself without hypnotizing him, however she has a need to control men. I was certainly not about to betray my hypnotic talents to break up a relationship between two people who apparently loved each other and planned to marry. It was unethical whatever fee she paid me.
I was not about to put two men under my hypnotic control (apparently against their own free will) for her long-term erotic gratification. With my understanding of what love is, I think she had lust and passion for her client but lacked the other essential components of real love. If I had agreed, she would likely have called on me to manipulate her client to do her bidding throughout their ‘relationship’. In some ways I would have left myself open to blackmail. I may have even been complicit in rape.
The point of this story is; this man was engaging in secret sexual activities to the point where they could have very real negative impacts on his future marriage. Alternatively, he could have been more open about his bisexual and sexually submissive interests with his fiancée. He would have found out her reactions (and their sexual physical and psychological compatibility) before they married, rather than let it become a real problem later. Perhaps he thought his brothel visits and secret sexual desires would remain that way? But the truth is they were likely to become a dangerous ‘blackmail’ issue if the Dominatrix prostitute took revenge, if he did not submit to her demands. She was a professional at manipulating men, including married business leaders and politicians.
Not wanting to get involved, I thanked her for the discussion and drink but declined. I fear the Dominatrix Mistress was about to unleash a lot of jealous pain on her love interest and his fiancée. I wanted no part of it.
I know of a household name athlete (not my client) who had a secret sexual compulsion. I personally know various people who knew him, from his former sports coach to his therapist, his lawyer and various former sexual partners who have all shared parts of his jigsaw puzzle story to me. I must not reveal or even suggest his identity.
Basically, he has a public image which is very different from the real man. Today he is in the media having recovered from years of drug addiction and personal turmoil.
He was married and has children. But he also engaged in illicit sex with other men in groups. He was also a heavy user of sex party drugs at these orgies. He was arrested several times by the police for drug offences. Eventually this caused a very public marriage breakup. One of his team mates actually died from an overdose, I am told it was at one of these all-male sex parties. Things became even more complicated and involved as my lawyer associate at the time told me firsthand that the man I am referring to was then convicted and jailed for drug offences.
He hit rock bottom. The saga turned his whole life upside down.
His extended family and friends now know everything, including the sex and drugs. Being loved by so many and having such a high media profile, they have managed to keep it all under wraps. He smiles on camera and most of the public have no idea what happened.
It all started with his compulsion for sex beyond his marriage. He used party drugs to intensify the experience and let it spin out of control. While his friend and teammate died, it could have served as a warning, but instead he charged full speed into drug addiction, which ended with a crash – in jail.
He lost his marriage, regular contact and respect from his children, who will eventually learn exactly why their parents split. His family and friends know the whole truth. The good news is he emerged from jail a changed man. Given a fresh chance at life, he accepted a lifeline. He has become a media personality and is slowly rebuilding his reputation.
For some people, these risk-taking sexual practices are a self-destructive behavior, perhaps driven by a need for love and attention. For others, it may be a result of depression, bipolar disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder.
For some others it can be the result of substance abuse; including alcohol, MDMA, ecstasy, methamphetamine, and cocaine use. It is important to get a diagnosis and treatment because there are clear sexual health implications.
A person with sex compulsion may significantly change their daily habits and behaviors so that they can perform sexual acts multiple times a day and say they were unable to control it, despite the negative consequences. They may lie about their activities or engage in them at times and places where they think they won’t be found out.
“A man came to see me who said although he loved his wife and children very much, he had a compulsion to visit a local park after work every day and have oral sex with other men. He explained that he would think about that activity all day while at work and find fantasy satisfaction from those activities. But later the guilt and shame were crushing him,” explained Peter Zapfella.
We know that stress, anxiety, and depression lower an individual’s immunity to infection. According to Dr. Jennifer Landa, a hormone-therapy specialist, a study conducted by the Department of Medical Psychology at the University Clinic of Essen, in Germany, confirmed that sexual arousal and orgasm increased the number of natural killer white blood cells that fight off infections and boost immunity. Our immune system responds positively to sexual arousal and orgasm.
According to neurologist and headache specialist Stefan Evers, an experiment with 800 migraine sufferers found that 60 percent of migraine sufferers experienced pain relief after participating in sexual activity that resulted in orgasm. hypersexuality
The hormones serotonin, oxytocin, and norepinephrine are released during sexual arousal and orgasm, and all three are known for counteracting stress hormones, and promoting relaxation. Orgasm has been proven to have positive effects on the immune system as a whole.
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Remember, apparently enjoying sex more, and having a stronger sex-drive than your partner is not a ‘sex addiction’. Honestly engaging in your sexual fantasy from time-to-time is not a sex addiction. An interest in ‘normal’ (whatever ‘normal’ maybe?) legal sexual activity between consenting adults is not ‘sex addiction’ per se.
When it takes over one’s life and becomes a compulsion, that refuses to go away. When the urges take over – then it is time to get help.
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