“Anger is a sign that one does not understand,
and cannot communicate one’s own feelings.”
– Peter Zapfella.
There are so many books, articles, workshops, ‘how to’ courses and counseling about ‘anger management’…. are they effective in the real world? Most revolve around ‘relaxation techniques’, or ‘converting’ anger into some constructive pursuits, such as sport. Attempts to consciously ‘inhibit’ or ‘suppress’ anger are certain to fail.
Most often following ‘anger management’ training the anger is still there, like a monster locked in the closet, trying to get out. ‘Anger management’ is a conscious ‘avoidance’ process. Sooner or later consciousness will be caught letting it’s guard down. Sooner or later the monster breaks out and attacks with vengeance.
‘Anger management’ books, articles, workshops, ‘how to’ courses and counseling are all logical, analytical conscious processes. Yet anger and rage are emotional. They emerge from a completely different area of the brain.
It takes a tremendous conscious effort to ‘manage’ anger. Yet with NLP it can be resolved, and even deleted at its source, in the unconscious mind.
The solution is to identify the previous, automatic unconscious thought patterns and behaviors that resulted in anger and rage, then delete them. Next, create new unconscious thought patterns and behaviors that result in cool, calm, centered thinking. The whole process takes place within the unconscious, where the problem emotions arose. It is not conscious. That is where the Welcome No Anger MP3 comes in, following optional one-on-one therapy with Peter Zapfella.
Anger is usually an intense emotional response often preceded by feelings of irritability and frustration. An angry person may lose his/her objectivity, empathy, prudence or thoughtfulness and may cause harm to themselves or others. It may be triggered by real, felt or imagined grievances, such as a defence mechanism to hide fear and hurt.
Occasional anger is a normal emotional response. However, when it becomes uncontrollable and turns destructive, it can cause problems at work, at home, in personal relationships, and overall quality of life.
A person experiencing anger will also experience physical conditions, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline,
Like rage, anger serves no positive purpose. Symptoms may include:
- Sweating, rapid heart beat, and rapid breathing
- Changes in appetite
- Muscle tension
- Feeling irritable
- Difficulty sleeping
- Difficulty dealing with constructive criticism
- Social withdrawal
- Poor concentration and memory
Synonyms of the word anger include; annoyed, bitter, enraged, exasperated, furious, heated, impassioned, indignant, irate, irritated, offended, outraged, resentful, sullen, uptight, antagonised, choleric, convulsed, cross, displeased, exacerbated, ferocious, fierce, fiery, fuming, galled, hateful, huffy, ill-tempered, incensed, inflamed, infuriated, nettled, provoked, raging, riled, sore, sulky, turbulent, vexed and wrathful.
“Anger and aggression are not the same thing “
– Peter Zapfella
Extreme levels of anger are called rage or fury. Intermittent explosive disorder (IED) is characterised by frenzied explosive outbursts of hostility, impulsivity, anger and violence, which may be dangerous. IED is a sudden, often unprovoked emotional ‘explosion’. We are told about one in every twelve teenagers suffer from IED.
Common risk factors:
- adolescent male
- past head and brain trauma
- childhood physical abuse and trauma
- alcohol or drug abuse
- depression feeling hopeless, self-hate
- low self-esteem
Associated disorders may include;
- Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD)
- Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)
- Obsessive-compulsive disorders (OCD)
The most common signs and symptoms of IED may include:
- intentionally causing property damage
- verbal and physical aggression
- road rage
- aggressive outbursts
- suicidal tendencies
- feeling building tension in the head or chest just before an outburst
- fatigue following an episode
- tingling feelings
- hearing echo’s
- chest palpitations
- racing thoughts
- inability to focus and concentrate
- poor performance at school or work
- frequent irritability and frustration
- noticeable mood changes just before an episode
- frequent anger outbursts building into an uncontrolable rage
- feeling ‘out of body’ during an episode
- guilt and shame
If left untreated IED can result in any of the following;
- academic failure
- suspension from school because of anti-social behavior
- dropping out of school
- socially mixing with other ‘no hopers’
- dropping out of former social groups and sports
- frequent physical injuries
- substance abuse and addiction
- alcohol abuse
- domestic violence
- child abuse
- suicidal ideations
- premature death as a result of accident, violence or drug overdose
Sufferers need professional intervention as early as possible, which may include medication.
If you had a bucket of mud (representing negative emotions and behaviors, such as anger), but you wanted a bucket of clean fresh water (representing positive emotions and behaviors), you could put the bucket of mud under a tap and run fresh clean water (representing subliminal affirmations) into the bucket. But it would take a long time, and you would still have a bucket of muddy water. That is an analogy of how most subliminal affirmation downloads currently available on the Internet work, or perhaps do not work. Peter Zapfella uses his one-on-one therapies to ‘throw out’ or delete the mud (representing negative emotions and behaviors) and then you can choose to use the ‘Welcome’ Subliminal Affirmations to quickly and efficiently refill the bucket with fresh clean water (representing positive emotions and behaviors). No mud! No anger!
Everyone of us is unique. We have all had different life experiences and we react to them differently too. Most emotional and behavioral challenges can respond well to one-on-one psychotherapy tailored to the individual, using Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), hypnotherapy and perhaps cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). That is why Peter Zapfella suggests you start with one-on-one therapy using Skype and then use the ‘Welcome’ subliminal affirmations to ‘lock-in’ the unconscious shifts long-term. Of course, you can ‘flip-it’ and try one of the 300 ‘Welcome’ MP3’s first, and see if they are effective for you without therapy. If so, that’s great. If not you can use skypetherapy.pro
Peter has successfully worked with past clients who need to overcome ‘road rage’ issues while preserving the ‘anger resources’ they use as professional football players, and sports people. Deleting all ‘anger‘ could ruin their careers if anger is a resource.
Now you can listen to these subliminals when ready to sleep and let these gentle and encouraging words guide your unconscious mind into the realms of dreams. If you listen to this MP3 while sleeping, on ‘repeat’ or ‘loop’ your unconscious mind will hear this message around 450 times every night. Alternatively, you can listen in the background during the day at work or leisure, as no hypnotic trance is required.
These subliminal messages are simply ‘obscured’ from the conscious mind within masking music or environmental sounds to prevent conscious analytical thinking. The more these messages are repeated, the more they are uncritically accepted by the unconscious, which maintains emotions, beliefs and habits of behavior. A simple message, repeated enough, will become a new unconscious belief. A message repeated following therapy with Peter Zapfella can achieve miraculous results.
EXCELLENT REASONS WHY PETER ZAPFELLAS
‘WELCOME’ SUBLIMINAL AFFIRMATIONS
ARE YOUR BEST CHOICE
Subliminal Affirmation Text:
‘You feel relaxed and calm now, because that old irritability, frustration and anger from long ago has gone forever. It is just a distant memory disappearing into the past. It was a childish way to behave because it achieved nothing. It only made you feel worse. Now you are more grown-up and matured. You are resourceful. You have life experience and wisdom to draw upon. You can communicate so much better now. You have choices. You are now more clear in the mind, more relaxed in the body. You can accept everything and everybody because you are more confident, and you have greater self-control. The way that you feel is becoming better and better because the burdens have been lifted forever and ever now that you welcome a life with no irritability, frustration or anger.”
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